How To Handle Pre-Wedding Stress (With Steps that Work)

Planning a wedding can be stressful. Regardless of how you approach your big day, you will encounter some stressful moments.

Experiencing wedding stress is normal, but it shouldn’t cloud the lead up to your special day. Planning your wedding can be lots of fun, so if you are feeling more pressure than joy, it might be time to reassess your approach.

If you’re prone to overwhelm or you want to limit your pre marriage stress, simply follow our steps and enjoy this time with your partner.

1. Enjoy the Engagement

There is a tendency to throw yourself into wedding planning as soon as you get engaged. Take a little time to enjoy your new status as an engaged couple before you get weighed down with the logistics of organising your big day.

Keep adding to your wedding Pinterest board but give yourselves a breathing period to celebrate the moment and bask in that newly engaged glow.

2. Make It A Team Effort

Often one partner likes to take over the planning which can create an imbalance when it comes to pre-wedding stress. Approaching your big day as a united team and working to your strengths will help you to create a strong partnership, essential for a successful wedding and marriage.

Perhaps you’re creative, while your partner is great at budgeting. Work out where your skills are best utilised and share the load.

3. Manage Expectations

It’s easy to get carried away and have grand expectations for your wedding day. Like anything in life, if you set your expectations too high, you can often be let down and feel disappointed with a result that is less than your perfect vision.

Be realistic and flexible when it comes to planning your wedding. Obsessing over perfection and having a rigid approach to your planning can lead to increased stress and disappointment.

4. Plan, Plan, Plan

As the saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Having a plan for your wedding day will relieve so much stress and make everything easier for all involved.

The best way to do this is to create a checklist. Take a look at our wedding checklist to give you an idea of what you need to consider.

Your list should include non-negotiables, things you really love but are not essential, and those that would be nice to have as a bonus.

Continually come back to your checklist and edit it if necessary. You will find this prevents wedding stress and creates a sense of calm throughout your planning process.

5. Outsource

When it all feels too much, you need to consider outsourcing. Even if you and your partner are sharing the planning and doing all you can to lighten your load, sometimes you just need help.

Enlisting the help of a wedding co-ordinator can relieve so much pressure. While they are an extra cost, their expertise and knowledge could help you save money in other areas and take the stress out of you having to organise every little thing.

The Gold Coast Farm House provides an event co-ordinator to help with all of your needs onsite. They can help with logistics around your venue needs and liaise with you wedding planner.

6. Self-Care and Checking In

Throughout the wedding planning process, be sure to check in with yourself and your partner. Are you taking on too much? Do you need to take a break from planning? Is it no longer fun and becoming a drag?

Planning a wedding can be all-consuming and take up a lot of your free time.

Take a break from time to time and block out some weekends for self-care and reconnecting with your partner. Remember why you’re getting married and nurture your connection to each other.

7. Let it Go

Regardless of how much you plan and organise your special day, some things just won’t happen the way you’d hope. Often these will just be smaller details that only you will notice. In these instances, you need to learn the art of letting go.

It could be that the pink roses you wanted are not quite the colour you’d ordered. In this case, keep in mind that florists do their best to source your colours, but they are working with living flowers that are seasonal and you might not get your exact shade. Is the slightly more peach rose still beautiful? Yes. Will it stop you from marrying the love of your life? No. Then let it go and enjoy your day.

8. Enjoy Yourself

Your wedding day is meant to one of the most memorable days of your life. You want your memories to be full of joy and happiness, not stress and worry.

This goes for the planning stage as well. You are less likely to enjoy your wedding day if you’ve been a stressed mess leading up to it.

Try to make your wedding planning a joy and pleasure by following our steps to handling pre-wedding stress.

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